Forget Focusing on Who You’re Not Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are. Kurt Cobain Around this time of year people focus on improving. Growth is important but…it becomes problematic when people start focusing on their weaknesses instead of their strengths. Okay, so you’re carrying around an extra twenty pounds, but aren’t you a great friend and marketing whiz? Your finances are on life support, but aren’t you’re a wizard at putting together an event on short notice?